Set Boundaries For Success
If you want to be successful you have to set boundaries for success. What do I mean by setting boundaries? You have to learn to be OK with saying no. I know this isn’t something many people want to hear, but try to keep an open mind and hear me out.
First of all, if you fail to set boundaries people will take advantage of you and your good nature. Many people will find someone too good hearted to say no, and they will use them to complete their own agenda. You may even be forced to do things that don’t align with your values if you can’t say no.
By setting boundaries and sticking to your principles you’ll find that you have more time and energy to work toward your success. By not taking on every little thing that gets thrown at you it’s possible to free up your time to work toward your own goals in life and business.
Boundaries Are Important
The importance of being able to set boundaries for success cannot be overstated. Setting boundaries and sticking to them helps to protect you and allows you to determine how you will be treated. They help you to keep things real and be honest with yourself about what you are willing to do or not do.
Setting boundaries and not crossing them will allow you to have confidence when you tell someone you aren’t able or willing to do something. People who are willing to use you to attain their own goals always hear the word no as maybe. By being confident when you have to tell someone no you will not leave any doubt as to what you are saying.
Rejection is a basic fact of life. Therefore, you need not feel bad when you have to reject something that will take you away from your goals. Think about how many times you have been rejected in your life. It’s a part of growing up and becoming an adult to learn to handle rejection. So honestly you need to ask yourself if you are being fair to yourself by always doing what others want you to do with no thought of your own wants and needs.
If you have always been too afraid to say no because of what someone might think of you, you have to get over that. Practice saying no to things that don’t align with what you need to accomplish to reach the goals you have set for yourself. It’s a fact that if you don’t, you’ll continue to struggle to reach your goals because you are too busy helping others realize theirs.
Setting Your Boundaries The Right Way
If you are afraid of hurting someone’s feelings by setting your boundaries and having to say no, you need to get over that part of it. You can’t control another person’s feelings. Unfortunately, that is something we all have to learn. Many times no matter what we do someone is going to get hurt feelings. That’s also a part of life.
What you can control is how you deal with your boundaries and how you say no. You can say no in a nice way that doesn’t make you feel like a bad person. If you deliver the message in a kind way that let’s the other person know you recognize the news may not be pleasant, but you still have to say no because it isn’t what is best for you, then that is all you can do.
Explaining why you have to say no in a calm tone, especially if you are with other people present, will go a long way toward sparing the other person’s feelings. There is a way to stay within your boundaries without embarrassing the other person or being cruel. You want to be confident in saying no without being rude.
Learning to say no and learning to set boundaries for success are important milestones when we think of your journey to being successful. Just remember that even though you may find it hard to say no in the beginning, you need this skill to say yes to your own success. If you say no to the things that don’t align with your success and start saying yes to those things that do, you’ll be amazed how quickly you see success begin to unfold in your life.